I think it is natural as humans to hold on because of the fear of starting over. Letting go becomes more difficult when we consider the hurt it may cause to those we care about. Letting go is often equated to defeat or lack of effort which is why we tend to keep holding on even in a relationship that is hanging by a thread.
I see relationships in general as investments of time, effort, dedication, energy, money and attention. You need to figure out when a relationship does not deserve such investments to avoid burning down. A time will come for a re-evaluation of our relationships; to let go of those with negative or no prospects. A great red flag is when you have to constantly convince yourself that the relationship is worth holding on to or having the hope that it will get better even when it never does.
While there may be occasional depressing bouts, mood swings or exchange of words, a relationship should not drain you of any positive energy you have. Your partner should not take joy in bringing you and your ideas down. If you cannot remember the last time you were truly happy or the person had your interests at heart, maybe it is time the relationship is cut off.
While I may not be an expert in romantic relationships, I believe that it takes two to make it work. If you are the only one painstakingly trying to make it work with little or no effort from the other party, it defeats the purpose of being in one. You cannot be happy in a relationship where you are simply an option while the other person is a priority to you. It keeps chaffing at your self-esteem until you will have none left which makes it more difficult to walk away. If you have to change who you are or find it difficult to be comfortable around the person, it becomes exhausting.
Well, what do I know? You alone know how you feel when you are with your significant other. Letting go will be difficult but it is necessary if you always pay the ultimate price with your peace of mind and happiness.
Love,
Diane
