Haven’t we all been there? That moment we swallow the emphatic “NO” back in, almost choking from the impulse to blurt it out. And so often, we succumb instead to the pressure and say “YES” because the alternative seems too difficult. I guess this is because saying no has for...
Amy bit her lips again, pacing around the sitting room. She desperately wanted to but couldn’t seem to muster up the courage to do so. Memories of past rejections came back in full force, taunting her brutally. And so she didn’t, and instead locked the detailed business proposal she had...
It was Thursday last week that the note went viral. We had lost another person who couldn’t deal with the demons that plagued her. A note, two bottles of sniper, and a hard dose of determination to escape the web of pain were all it took. Cold as ice was...
I had a conversation with a friend late last year after he had experienced a great and intensely painful loss. I listened as he vented and kept rhetorically asking the “why” questions. Why do we have leaders without empathy? Why do good people die? Why does cancer have no permanent...
My last post for the Year 2020 focused on gratitude, and I still feel the same way, even as I pen this down. I feel lucky to see the New Year, and I am grateful for it. I welcome it with open arms because I am hopeful that things will...
It just dawned on me that this will officially be the last article for the year 2020. I’ve decided I’ll make this one of gratitude, and so, this short piece is dedicated to you, my wonderful readers. Everyone has days when they feel down. Days when a feeling of unfulfilment...
Today’s post is going to be a brief one and the product of my thoughts as I try to relax after a mentally stressful day. In my last post, I wrote a letter to worriers, and I guess this is an additional note. It is mind-blowing the things we uncover...
Dear Worrier, You are me and I am you. This means I understand, but it doesn’t excuse our actions or make them right. It can be so easy to panic when everyday challenges make it feel like the weight of the world rests on our shoulders. And once we go...
This is proof of true and sincere remorse. So if you are the type to easily express apologies vocally, but repeatedly commit the same acts over and over again, the efficacy of the apology you make erodes over time.
Hands shaking, I unwrapped the pink-striped package, and neatly stacked inside was my atonement gift, a collection of cosmetics. Sardonically, I laughed. I knew exactly why he bought them. They were to help hide...
Trust Nigerians, there have been loads of jokes about it, but we all know the Twitter ban has not been fun so far....
I understand now, once again, that some days will be bad. Heck, they will drain you of everything that gives you strength and...
Recently, social media has been agog with the hashtag #At23 and I have read through tons of posts and comments surrounding this trend....
I simply lacked some physical features that he wanted in a woman. My small behind, nonexistent hips, and slim thighs were his complaints....
I loved her more than life itself. It was the kind of love that defied understanding. I realised with a shock that I...
There will be moments when sleeping will be preferred to being awake. Times when the darkness will hold more appeal than the light....
I am someone who has always turned to writing to make sense of things. Especially the parts of life that feel confusing, heavy or quietly complicated.
I write about mental health, relationships, identity, faith, and the in-between seasons we often move through without much language. Most of what you will find here comes from lived experience, observation, and a habit of sitting with thoughts a little longer than most people do.
I do not write because I have the answers. I write because it helps me understand myself, other people and the world around me. Writing gives me the space to slow down and to say things honestly, without needing to tidy them up. Some of what I write is still in the process of becoming, and I am comfortable letting it be that way.
Thoughts on Ink is where those reflections live. If you are drawn to writing that feels thoughtful, unhurried and real, I am glad you are here.
