I had a friend growing up. She was super intelligent, and it was not shocking to see the many accolades she received for her outstanding performances. However, it was shocking to know that she only got those accolades outside! Whenever Bee brought her awards back home, all she got was...
Our first date was on a Saturday five months ago. I remember this because I came back from the date with Emmanuel miserable as heck. It was clear I was the rejected one. That never happened before. He rambled on about his ex throughout the date, as though I was...
There was something about her that made everyone – including me – stare, transfixed as she walked by. Some would say she was overweight while some would go as far as calling her hopelessly obese. She seemingly did not care. And then it dawned on me! She oozed self-confidence as...
“…and love does conquer all,” the preacher concluded in his husky voice. There was thunderous applause from the congregation as his message was very well received. I did not clap though. I was there because Naomi had somehow forced me to honor her invitation for a youth program at her...
The Serenity Prayer is one that some of us may be familiar with. I heard this prayer for the first time in a movie where it was offered at an Alcoholic Addiction support group, and I was immediately hooked. Coined by American Theologian, Reinhold Niebhur, it is one so powerful....
I had done it again. This time as always, the guilt tore at me, but the sex was as amazing as it always was, and so I shrugged it off. I stared down at the woman who lay sleeping beside me, and it felt like I could get lost in...
A discussion with a friend of mine some months back came to mind as I pondered on this topic. The truth is that we tend to have unrealistic expectations of our partners especially when we are in love. These expectations create a warped belief that they are the only person...
I remember those times as a child when life was simpler; times when the only thought that consistently raced through my mind was creatively crafting plans and excuses to avoid going to bed early. What about the times where we cried when beaten and ran back to the arms of...
If miracles do exist, then this amazing Nigerian-American singer is living proof. I bet we all remember the Sosoliso Flight Crash of December 10th, 2005. With the resulting loss of 107 lives, tragedy snuffed out the light in the sun. Born on October 29th, 1989, Kechi Okwuchi was one of...
It was my wedding day. I was tired of the appearances I had been forced to put up and my jaw ached from the pressure of the fake smile that I plastered boldly. I begged to be free from going through with this façade. I struggled to maintain a calm...
We all make decisions in our daily life, and they are the result of our thought processes and external influences. Sometimes, these decisions...
I stared hot daggers into the mirror. If looks could pierce, my mirror would have been shattered into a million pieces. As I...
The point of this post is to simply let you know that it is perfectly okay to say “No” for your peace of...
The beauty of life will cease to exist without the added flavour of hope. In the silence of the night, I know that...
The lesson I hope you will garner from Fanny's story is that you can have a will as long as there is life....
Finally, understand that things will not always go the way you plan it to go, especially situations that are beyond your control. Be...
I am someone who has always turned to writing to make sense of things. Especially the parts of life that feel confusing, heavy or quietly complicated.
I write about mental health, relationships, identity, faith, and the in-between seasons we often move through without much language. Most of what you will find here comes from lived experience, observation, and a habit of sitting with thoughts a little longer than most people do.
I do not write because I have the answers. I write because it helps me understand myself, other people and the world around me. Writing gives me the space to slow down and to say things honestly, without needing to tidy them up. Some of what I write is still in the process of becoming, and I am comfortable letting it be that way.
Thoughts on Ink is where those reflections live. If you are drawn to writing that feels thoughtful, unhurried and real, I am glad you are here.
